"You are doing better than you think. We are the hardest on ourselves and we feel like we are failing. If you feel like you don’t fit and motherhood isn’t the easiest thing you have ever done. How and who you were created to be is on purpose and you are the exact right mom for your kids."
- Ashley Carbonatto
Being a mom is hard. In fact many moms will say it’s harder than they ever dreamed it would be. Motherhood changes you and sometimes we don’t even see it coming. While some thrive in these changes there are some of us who struggle, we feel like our purpose is gone, that we are failing at this motherhood gig we had always wanted, and feel guilty for wanting to be more than just a mom. If you are saying girl this is so me. Pull up a seat because today we are covering topics like, losing our identity, God’s perfect timing, getting honest with ourselves, and that you are the right mom for your kids with the author of the new book More Than A Mom.
Ashley Carbonatto is a domestically underachieving mom-of-three who juggles all the things. She's a gatherer of people, a welcomer to the outsider, a storyteller to the tired, and an entertainer to the downcast. After leaving a successful career in fashion recruiting, she re-discovered her voice and renewed purpose in motherhood, but in her own unconventional way. You need homemade frosting? She's not the one you call. But you need a good story and honest reflection? Ashley's your woman. She lives in a suburb of Seattle, Washington with her husband & three minions, and always has a drink in the fridge for anyone who stops by.
Quotes I loved:
I woke up one day and didn’t even know who I was. I had friends in the same season but no one ahead of me that I had in my life, showing me that this would be part of the journey.
Motherhood stripped me of all of the things, achievements, accolades, and way I had received praise. That came from working and things in life I was good at, but I wasn’t good at being a mom. My identity went in the toilet, I didn’t know how to bring old Ashley and new Ashely together.
I knew I wanted to be a mom but when I got there I thought, Oh this isn’t as fun as a thought it would be. I had to get back to basics to figure out who I was and rebuild each part of my identity. I had to find who I was “more than just being a mom”.
It’s a story a lot of us experience when we wake up one day in the middle of motherhood not even knowing how we got there. Wondering what’s left? I’ve peaked.
To have something that is yours feels really selfish and is not celebrated at all. We often just feel guilty and that is not ok.
I had to cancel out what I knew God didn’t make me to be. I’m not going to apologize for who I was made to be.
Keep fighting for Community.
Invite your people in mess and all.
You are doing better than you think. We are the hardest on ourselves and we feel like we are failing. If you feel like you don’t fit and motherhood isn’t the easiest thing you have ever done. How and who you were created to be is on purpose and you are the exact right mom for your kids.
In this episode:
How things change when we don’t expect them to after becoming a mom
Losing your identity
Getting Honest With Ourselves
Not Feeling Guilty When We Do Something For Us
Who God Made Us To Be
God’s Timing Is Perfect
Community In Motherhood
Friends Becoming Family
Making Friends as A Mom
You Are the Right Mom For Your Kids
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